Pamela F. Spear

FEEDING HILLS – We are saddened to announce the passing of our beautiful Mom, Pamela Frances Spear (1939-2024). She was born in Sheffield, England to Irene and Arthur Carriker.

Her father was a US Army Intelligence Officer, and due to his military career, Pam traveled a lot of the world during her school years. At 18, she married Richard Graydon in Canada and together they had three children, Steven, Michael and Christina. They moved to the states shortly after Chrissy was born. Pam was blessed with many loves. She married Joseph G. Plante after being set up by good friends. Joe was an amazing stepfather to her children. They were married 28 years until his passing in 1997. After being set up on another successful blind date, she married James R. Spear, Jr. in 2000 and had 22 wonderful years together until Jim’s passing in 2022.

Pam was a realtor for over 40 years and loved helping people find their dream home. She loved the beach and traveling. During her years with Jim and their deep involvement with The Shriners, they visited many areas in the US and abroad. She was a very busy woman! A member of the Pioneer Valley Shrine Club and Daughters of the Nile. She volunteered tirelessly for the original Melha “Feztival of Trees” and many Melha events. She was recently honored for her 27 years as President of the 104th Barnes Air National Guard Alumni Association, receiving accolades and praise from previous 104FW Commander, Ret. Major General Keefe and current 104FW Commander, Colonel Halasi-Kun. Pam was a talented artist and would spend hours in her craft room creating beautiful hand painted items. Her husband Joe would cut wood shapes or slate in his workshop while Pam painted them, and together they participated in many craft fairs in the area. She was so talented and creative! She loved her two cats, Pumpkin and Tootsie. She and her daughter Chrissy loved having tag sales and could never drive by one without stopping. She created quite a legacy and will be missed so much by her loving family and countless friends.

Pam is survived by her sister Lynn Scott (Erik), and her brother Michael Josling (Roz) from England. Her three children, Steven Graydon (JoAnn), Michael Graydon and Christina Graydon Gezotis (Curtis). Her stepchildren Robert Spear (Tess) and Melissa Spear. Fourteen grandchildren, Nicholas Gezotis (Kelsey), Christian Gezotis (Heather), Shaun Gezotis, Hannah Graydon, Joseph Graydon (Alexis), Ryan and Neal Swanfeldt, Nicole Fredette (Gary), Michael Graydon, Jr. (Nicole), Stephanie Neylon Van Aller (Ian), Michael and Michaela Neylon, Colby and Isabella Spear. Nine great-grandchildren, Griffin and Graham Gezotis, Lilliana and Maverik Graydon, Hazel and Bryce Fredette, Emmett Swanfeldt and Steven and Amelia Van Aller.

Calling hours will be Tuesday, July 16th, 4-7 p.m. at Firtion Adams Funeral Home, 76 Broad Street, Westfield, MA with a memorial service immediately following. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Shriners Hospital for Children, 516 Carew Street, Springfield, MA 01104 or the Westfield Homeless Cat Shelter, 1124 East Mountain Road, Westfield, MA 01085.

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